Ok so now that we discussed my embarrassment in the bike shop, let’s talk quickly about fear and humiliation in everyday life. After my initial riding shoe disaster, I went out on a good old fashioned ride in my sneakers to clear my head a bit. As I pedaled along the bike path, I got to thinking. How often do I let fear and humiliation (or worse, the fear of humiliation) dictate my life?
How often am I afraid to start because I’m not certain what the future may hold? How often am I afraid to speak up because I worry about what others will think? How many opportunities have I walked away from before even trying?
Anyone else guilty of these doubts?
So what do you say we make a decision together? Let’s make a promise right here on the internet. Let’s cross our hearts and hope to die that we won’t become a slave to our fears. Let’s agree that everyone falls sometimes, and that that’s absolutely ok. Let’s commit to being the kind of people who walk towards their fears, instead of away from them. I know we can’t change how we feel, but let’s try really hard the next time we feel embarrassed or humiliated to remember that everyone stumbles. Let’s swear to support one another and lift each other whenever we can.
And most importantly, let’s forget about the people around us who don’t play by these rules. We don’t need relationships that bring us down. We don’t need to surround ourselves with people who make us feel small. Let’s make it our mission to find the Stanley’s of the world. To find the people who don’t laugh when we fall. To find the people who are going to be there with their big, hulking, tattooed arms to scoop us up when we do fall. To find the people who will be patient with us, who will challenge us, and who won’t give up on us. And while we’re making all these promises, let’s do our best to be a Kevin for one another. Let’s be caring, and supportive, and treat others the way we want to be treated. Let’s look our friends in the eye and really listen to their fears. Let’s help each other beat those fears. And when its finally time to get moving, let’s be the kind of people who are able to offer that final push of encouragement that is so often needed. Sound good? Is everyone on board? Pinkie swear?
And well… when all else fails and we’re still feeling scared or humiliated. Let’s just make dessert. Something really sweet and comforting. The kind of food that heals the soul a little bit. Something like Chewy S’mores Bars. Whatd’ya say?
- 3/4 cup graham cracker crumbs
- 3 Tbs butter, melted
- 4 standard sized Hershey bars (1.55 oz each)
- 6 Jumbo marshmallows, cut into thirds
- 1/2 cup flour
- 1/4 cup graham cracker crumbs
- 1/2 cup sugar
- 3/4 tsp baking powder
- pinch of salt
- 1/4 cup butter (1/2 stick), at room temperature
- 1 egg
- 1/4 tsp vanilla
- 1/4 cup milk
*Note 1: You can buy graham cracker crumbs at the grocery store, or make them yourself by pulsing 1 package of graham crackers in the food processor until fine crumbs are formed.
*Note 2: I’ve been finding jumbo sized marshmallows all over the place this summer. They seem to available in most major grocery stores. If you can’t find them though, just buy the the standard large mallows and cut them in half instead of into thirds.
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
In a bowl combine 3/4 cup of graham cracker crumbs and 3 Tbs of melted butter. Mix until the crumbs are well coated and transfer them to an 8×8 square baking dish. Cover your hand with a piece of plastic wrap to avoid sticking, and tightly pack the crumbs into an even layer in the bottom of the pan. Bake for 12 minutes, remove from the oven, and allow crust to cool completely.
While the crust is cooling, mix up the graham cracker batter. In the bowl of a stand mixer, combine the 1/2 cup flour, 1/2 cup sugar, 1/4 cup graham cracker crumbs, baking powder, and salt. Add the butter and mix on medium speed until it has been incorporated in pea sized piece. Next add the egg and vanilla and beat on medium speed for 1 minute, scraping down the sides of the bowl after 30 seconds. Finally add the milk and mix on low speed, just until incorporated.
When the graham cracker crust has cooled, lay the chocolate bars in a single layer over the graham cracker crust. Lay the marshmallow slices in a single layer over the chocolate bars and top with the graham cracker batter. Use a spatula to gently spread the batter in an even layer until all of the marshmallows are covered.
Bake the bars for 30 minutes or until the top layer is golden brown and the mallows are gooey.
Allow s’mores bars to cool for at least 10 minutes before cutting. I like to serve them hot with a big scoop of vanilla ice cream. I also love to eat them once they’ve cooled and the marshmallows and chocolate have blended to chewy perfection. In short, I love eating s’mores bars any way at any time… and so will you!
The Graham Cracker Batter was inspired by my fav Ming Makes Cupcakes, and the rest was dreamed up while I was eating summer’s favorite snack one night.